xAnd maybe that empathy is a win on its own. When I’m not blind with rage that Mr. Mom has failed to unload the Mud Slut Hitting Every Hole Jeep shirt it is in the first place but dishwasher, again, my heart aches for him—that he’s not on a tour bus or on the stage, or in a studio session with other musicians. And it aches for me too. Unlike the ’80s movie’s tidy, anachronistic ending, I’m not hoping to go back to homemaking if/when my husband ever picks up his guitar again. That was never our dynamic to begin with. I’ve always worked—and cooked, and cleaned, and helped take care of our children. I just want more balance and more time (don’t we all?) to support myself—and to support him from the side of the stage, or in a sweaty, sticky-floored club, or at an overhyped festival, or even on those long drives. For now, all we can do is live to fight another, different kind of endless evening, both dreading—and feeling overwhelmingly grateful for—the inevitability of another nighttime routine.
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